I posted about Tuesday in my prayer list on the sidebar just this week. Today her mom let us know that her battle with cancer would most likely end this week.
Before you even begin reading this post, you must understand one very important thing. I love my husband more than just about anything else in the whole wide world. He is a wonderful father, partner, friend, spiritual leader, provider....you name it! He has taken to fatherhood in ways that I could have never imagined possible, and he can totally handle just about any situation that comes his way.....but, you have to hear this story.
Right after Lucy was born, we made the decision that I would work every weekend so that one of us would always be with the kids. There were pros and cons to this situation, and it worked pretty well for about 3 years. We were blessed to be in a church that offered a Friday Night worship service (so I didn't have to miss church), and the kids have always loved their Daddy time. The strain of very little "family time" and missing all sorts of fun weekend activities got old during those 3 years, and now I work every other weekend (and 1 day during the week). We still share the childcare responsibilities, but we have at least 2 weekends a month to spend as a family.
All that to say, Chris can handle the kids. In the beginning, I did lots of prep to get him ready for his time with them. I prepared meals, laid out clothes, made lists and notes and bottles. I called him at least hourly, and I basically drove him absolutely bonkers (now I only drive him a little bit bonkers). It took a few months....ok maybe a year.... for me to realize that I needed to let some of it go. We had a few little "Come to Jesus" talks and I promised to let him do it his way.
And you know what?! It was SO freeing. I gave up worrying about how the kids looked, how the house looked (well sorta), whether or not they ate anything green or not full of sugar....we were all better for it. Basically, I let Go and let Chris!
Now that I'm off every other weekend, I have to say....I do like for the kids to look cute on my Sunday mornings. Check out these pics from this past Sunday....a "Mommy" Sunday:
Notice the girls....matching monogrammed dresses, matching black shoes and white tights. Reeves wearing a shirt with a collar in a complimentary color scheme. We all sort of look like we tried to be a coordinated little family (not that it didn't come at a price....Reeves pitched an absolute hissy fit when I tried to get him to wear a dress shirt in the same green gingham pattern as the girl's dresses. We compromised with this navy sweater....choosing battles my friends, choosing battles)!
Wanna know what a Daddy Sunday might look like? Well first of all, this is what fuels a Daddy Sunday (probably washed down with Bug Juice)....
You know what? It doesn't bother me one bit, either. I try to never make a big deal about what Chris feeds them on the days I work, and it has actually resulted in something I never would have imagined possible. Chris has turned into a really good cook. He actually bakes most to the time (if you know Chris at all, you know that he loves sweets), but he always gets the kids in on it. He's way better at that than me. Patience is definitely one of his spiritual gifts!
Now, back to the donuts. In June, our church was blessed to have a new lead pastor. And you know what? She is the best thing that has happened at our church in years! We love Julie, and she is blessing us all in unbelievable ways! The thing I love about her is that she "gets" it! She's a mom herself (with a second baby on the way), and she just has to laugh about the "Chris" Sundays.
One Wednesday evening, we had a conversation that I have to share...
Julie had only been at the church for about a month. She said that one Sunday she noticed the kids come in with Chris and he seemed a bit frazzled. Donuts, diaper bags, untied shoes, dirty faces, bug juice, baby dolls, sippy cups, stuffed animals....the whole bit. As soon as he walked in the door, she noticed a lady "rescuing" him. Julie said that the lady bent down to re-button Lucy's dress, and she heard her say, "Your Mommy is working today isn't she?" Lucy simply gave an affirming nod and a grin.
Julie said she couldn't help but giggle, and I said, "Isn't that Awesome?!"
You see, I am soooo grateful. First of all, I am grateful for a wonderful husband who does it all and never complains. Second of all, I am thankful and blessed to have an AMAZING church family. A family who does not judge, does not question, does not ridicule, does not shame. They are open and real and accepting. Our church is a place where you can wear jeans, drink coffee and eat donuts during Worship....go barefoot if you like. Shoot, your kids can come in their PJs if they want. No One Cares!!! A church family who is seeking to know God more. To know God in the real world. That is what it's about!
It's exactly what I need. It's exactly what I want. And to be honest, I think it's what God wants!
My girls may have their dresses on backwards. Reeves may wear his jeans that have holes in the knees, and Lucy may not have her hair like I like it. But you know what? I have a church family who absolutely accepts them JUST as they are.... accepts all of us as we are. My friends will wipe their faces and re-button their dresses and comb their hair. They will help Chris check them in to the Nursery, and make sure Lucy goes to the bathroom.
I mean, if that isn't real enough for you, then maybe this will be! I can't wait to see what our new series has in store....
to know my last name, this one's for you!
I, my friends, have had a bloggy award bestowed upon me, and I must say....I'm fabulously flattered!!! Amber was kind enough to choose me (along with a few others) as a blog that she thinks is Fabulous! How cool is that?!
I think Amber (of Ambers Run A Muck) said it best: "I most certainly agree that Lisa from CrazyAdventuresinParenting has the utmost fabulosity, and were it not for her fabulousness, this little button wouldn’t mean so much to me. Lisa is one of those intentional sorts who knows how to LOVE Big." You see, Lisa is the creator and original bestower of this award, and she knows best!
The best part? I get to pick ten fabulous blogs, giving you links to a few that I think have earned my attention for being fabulous, and the fabulously chosen fabulous bloggers get to link back to me and then pick ten other fabulous blogs, linking to them (got it dear bloggy award winners?) Don't worry about it if it is sounding too complicated....I just wanted to let you know how much I love Ya. At the very least, they get a button, with which they can do anything they want. How fabulously fabulous is that? (and, since you know I hate to hurt peoples feelings....I hope you know that I love ALL of the blogs I follow....it was so hard to just pick 10)!
Remember this?
It started out really good....I mean really, really wonderfully good! Lucy and I cuddled up in my bed while Reeves and Chris got ready for school and work. After a lot of thought and prayer, I have decided to take Lucy out of school on Thursdays. Up until now, she has been in 4 year old preschool 5 days a week. Basically, I miss my girl, and I need her to be home with me!
Next year, she will go to "big school".... kindergarten. She will be in school from 8am-3pm five days a week. This is our last year to really play, and I am really feeling the need to savor this time with her. So, this morning, we were really lazy. We laid in bed and had our coffee and carrots (Lucy's breakfast of choice....don't ask me why) and watched Blue's Clues. It was awesome. If I haven't mentioned it before, Lucy is our comic relief. She is full of fun and energy and just goes with the flow. I love this girl!!!
So why Thursdays?? Thursday's are really fun days for us. 3 of my dearest friends have kids that are the same ages as mine, and every Thursday, we get together for play and fellowhip and most importantly...we eat.
We eat really good!!! (I know that I should say WELL, but it just doesn't sound right). Today was my day to host and feed the masses (4 moms, 8 kiddos). Lucy and I managed to put together the entire meal before Greer woke up...and it was soooo much fun. I love having a little chef by my side, and I'm teaching her all my tricks (today she learned to tell when water has come to a "rolling boil"). We mananged all that before 8:30, and had the kitchen all cleaned up to boot....
Then....Greer woke up, and well, it wasn't quite as laid back. Sweet G has hit a whole new level, my friends. Whenever things get silent (for even a few seconds), you may find something like this...... 
Well, here she is with Pediatrician #2 (aka Papa...which is job #1). He would rather not take on the doctor role when it comes to his grandchildren (or children) for that matter! He just can't handle it.....he turns into a bowl full of mush and emotion...Love you Daddy!
Good morning friends! It's that time again.....Not Me Monday time that is! Gives all us perfect mothers a chance to poke a little fun at all our winning parenting moments! Check out MckMama's blog for more fun moments. You'll be amazed how much we all have in common!
He's our all boy, athletic, Daddy loving, amazingly messy, school adoring, people pleasing, ultra sensitive, fruit craving, mercifully giving, bed hopping, dangerously destructive, absolutely precious first born.
She's our extremely funny, big hearted, completely dramatic, very talkative, nurturing, terribly sassy, independent, fashion forward, chocolate craving, brown eyed, Mommy helping, sorta sneaky, beautifully stunning second born!
